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Dating as a Single Parent: 8 Questions to Consider

  Dating as a Single Parent: 8 Questions to Consider One of the greatest challenges of single parenting is being able to take care of your needs for adult companionship and love while nurturing your children at the same time. Take your time: don’t rush into a new relationship because you fear being alone. By  Diana Shepherd, CDFA®   Updated: April 15, 2021 Categories:  Children's and Parenting Issues after Divorce ,  Coping with Divorce ,  Relationships and Dating After your relationship breaks down, you need to invest some time and effort to heal your broken heart. Once you have gotten past the “walking wounded” stage, you may be interested in finding a new mate. On the other hand, some single parents avoid the dating world altogether, choosing instead to devote all their time outside work to their children. However, experts say that becoming socially active after divorce can help prevent a parent from becoming unhealthily obsessive about his or her parenting role. In fact, when s

The Divorce Process: Step One

  The Divorce Process: Step One By  Randall Kessler   Updated: October 28, 2016 Categories:  Coping with Divorce ,  Legal Issues You have arrived at a decision: you want a divorce or you are seriously thinking about it .  Or perhaps your spouse has made that decision for you and now you are forced to think about how to protect yourself. Regardless of who initiated it, the decision to divorce is rarely a sudden one. Perhaps when you look in the mirror each morning you say to yourself, “I need to get out of this marriage. It is no longer working and it is beyond repair. I need to start a new life.” Or maybe your spouse has made that decision for the both of you. One thing is certain: we all want to stay in love forever. However, this is not always the reality. In fact, nearly 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce. Nobody wants to be part of this statistic; nevertheless, when all hope for reconciliation is gone, sometimes divorce is the only avenue for recap

Understanding the Divorce Process: Choosing a Lawyer

  Understanding the Divorce Process: Choosing a Lawyer By  Marlene A. Pontrelli   Updated: July 16, 2019 Categories:  Coping with Divorce ,  Legal Issues Divorce can be a scary process.  You may never have had to go through the process of choosing a lawyer before let alone detail information about your private life.  If you decide to retain a lawyer take your time in choosing a lawyer that is right for your particular case.  Set up a consultation with the lawyer in advance to retaining him or her so you have an opportunity to ask questions and determine whether their style fits your needs.  This is a journey that you will be taking together with your attorney as they help you reach the end result.   Retaining someone who not only is competent in family law, but who you feel comfortable talking with is paramount. You will be sharing very personal details of your married life, your goals for the future, and expected outcomes.  You need to feel a connection with the person who you are ent

Southside's Top Child Support Lawyers

  Chicago IL Family Lawyers Looking for a Divorce or Family Lawyer in Chicago? The Mehta Law Group, Ltd. 121 W Wacker Dr #1404 Chicago, IL 60601 (312) 374-4559 https://www.mlglawgroupillinois.com/ #letsguide Question: What Is the Difference Between Legal and Physical Custody of a Child in Illinois?? Answer: In a divorce, custody of a child is broken down in 2 ways: legal and physical. Legal custody means a parent is given responsibility for making important decisions about a child’s future and well being, including what school they will attend, which doctors they visit, etc. Joint legal custody allows both parents to be involved in these important choices and if they cannot agree on matters, one parent may be designated as the tie-breaker. On the other hand, physical custody is what it implies — it pertains to where children live on a regular basis. Physical custody can be shared by both parents or granted to just one. A judge will make physical and legal custody decisions based on the

Chicago's Top Rated Divorce Lawyers

  Chicago IL Family Lawyers Looking for a Divorce or Family Lawyer in Chicago? The Mehta Law Group, Ltd. 121 W Wacker Dr #1404 Chicago, IL 60601 (312) 374-4559 https://www.mlglawgroupillinois.com/ #letsguide Question: What Is the Difference Between Legal and Physical Custody of a Child in Illinois?? Answer: In a divorce, custody of a child is broken down in 2 ways: legal and physical. Legal custody means a parent is given responsibility for making important decisions about a child’s future and well being, including what school they will attend, which doctors they visit, etc. Joint legal custody allows both parents to be involved in these important choices and if they cannot agree on matters, one parent may be designated as the tie-breaker. On the other hand, physical custody is what it implies — it pertains to where children live on a regular basis. Physical custody can be shared by both parents or granted to just one. A judge will make physical and legal custody decisions based on the

A Blended Family: The Best Wedding Present Ever!

  A Blended Family: The Best Wedding Present Ever! 5 tips for helping your blended family become the wedding gift that keeps on giving. By  Denise Banks-Wilson   Updated: November 18, 2021 Categories:  Children's and Parenting Issues after Divorce ,  Step-families When I divorced the first time, I had a five-year-old daughter and three-year-old son.  I remarried seven years later and became bonus mom to an adorable four-year-old boy.  On the day of our wedding, we received a lot of gifts, but ever since that day my bonus son D’angelo, affectionately known as “Dee” (now 23), is the best wedding gift ever! According to www.smartstepfamilies.com, one-third of all marriages today form stepfamilies, a number so significant that in 1997 an unofficial national holiday was declared in its name.  National Stepfamily Day is celebrated on September 16 th  in honor of the 1,300 new stepfamilies who are created every day.  As romantic as these relationships may appear on the Hallmark channel, m

How to Create Your Best Life After Divorce and Get Over a Limiting Belief

  How to Create Your Best Life After Divorce and Get Over a Limiting Belief You are a new life builder. You push forward in spite of the past. You change your thoughts. In doing so, you create your best life. By  Donna McGoff   Updated: October 19, 2021 Categories:  Divorce Recovery ,  Inspirational Stories and Advice It’s hard to imagine living your best life after divorce. Since my divorce, I find myself dreaming about what my new life will look like. It’s there on the screen of my mind. In my imagination and through my senses, I can see myself already living it. I want to start my own coaching business, write a book, create online courses, and attract a healthy romantic relationship. Eventually, I’m ready to go for it. The time is NOW.  As I take the leap and go for one goal, suddenly I can’t  move forward . It’s as though an invisible hand is holding me back. I feel stuck. I feel an inner struggle. As I strive to go after what I want, an overwhelming feeling of dread and extreme di

Southside's Top Custody and Child Support Lawyers

  Chicago IL Family Lawyers Looking for a Divorce or Family Lawyer in Chicago? The Mehta Law Group, Ltd. 121 W Wacker Dr #1404 Chicago, IL 60601 (312) 374-4559 https://www.mlglawgroupillinois.com/ #letsguide Question: What Is the Difference Between Legal and Physical Custody of a Child in Illinois?? Answer: In a divorce, custody of a child is broken down in 2 ways: legal and physical. Legal custody means a parent is given responsibility for making important decisions about a child’s future and well being, including what school they will attend, which doctors they visit, etc. Joint legal custody allows both parents to be involved in these important choices and if they cannot agree on matters, one parent may be designated as the tie-breaker. On the other hand, physical custody is what it implies — it pertains to where children live on a regular basis. Physical custody can be shared by both parents or granted to just one. A judge will make physical and legal custody decisions based on the

Chicago Top Divorce Lawyers

  Chicago IL Family Lawyers Looking for a Divorce or Family Lawyer in Chicago? The Mehta Law Group, Ltd. 121 W Wacker Dr #1404 Chicago, IL 60601 (312) 374-4559 https://www.mlglawgroupillinois.com/ #letsguide Question: What Is the Difference Between Legal and Physical Custody of a Child in Illinois?? Answer: In a divorce, custody of a child is broken down in 2 ways: legal and physical. Legal custody means a parent is given responsibility for making important decisions about a child’s future and well being, including what school they will attend, which doctors they visit, etc. Joint legal custody allows both parents to be involved in these important choices and if they cannot agree on matters, one parent may be designated as the tie-breaker. On the other hand, physical custody is what it implies — it pertains to where children live on a regular basis. Physical custody can be shared by both parents or granted to just one. A judge will make physical and legal custody decisions based on the

The Holidays are Coming: How Do You Want to Show Up for Your Kids?

  The Holidays are Coming: How Do You Want to Show Up for Your Kids? Imagine it’s five years from now and you are looking back at this time. Picture your children’s faces in their best moments. How do you have to be in order for them to feel relaxed and happy? By  Carla Hugo   Updated: November 09, 2021 Categories:  Children and Divorce ,  Coping with Divorce With the holidays approaching, I am reminded of the wise words of a coaching client who said, “My girls are my audience.” Because your kids are watching to see how you handle yourself, it is even more important to show them your composure. Doing so will  give them immense relief at this stressful time . Whether you are considering divorce, going through your divorce, or are complete with the process, your kids are your audience. What your children want from you  is your ability to stay calm and connected with them. Your presence of calm can be overturned by stress from legal matters, negotiations, animosity and maybe even bullying

9 Considerations for You And Your Co-Parent as You Navigate Child Therapy.

  9 Considerations for You And Your Co-Parent as You Navigate Child Therapy. Children processing a divorce in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic can certainly benefit from seeing a therapist. Keep the following tips in mind. By  Lisa Zeiderman, Esq.   Updated: November 01, 2021 Categories:  Children and Divorce ,  Children's and Parenting Issues after Divorce ,  Co-Parenting after Divorce Children processing a divorce in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic can certainly  benefit from seeing a therapist . Keep the following tips in mind. Here are some basic rules of the road for choosing and dealing with your child’s therapist: Before you enlist the help of a therapist(s), make sure your co-parent approves of the idea. Depending on your custody agreement, this is likely something both parties need to agree to before pursuing.  Learn what to do if your co-parent is not on board → When possible, include your co-parent in choosing your child’s therapist and meet together with several th

The Breaking Point Before Divorce

  The Breaking Point Before Divorce The story of the final breaking point leading to my divorce with an abusive husband. By  PhoenixRising   Updated: December 14, 2021 Categories:  Considering Divorce ,  Inspirational Stories and Advice ,  Preparing for Divorce It’s Saturday morning in October in the Northeast. The wind blowing through the open bay windows is crisp and carries hints of freshly brewed coffee from the kitchen downstairs. It’s 7 A.M. and the baby is sleeping, the house is quiet. Although I was up for several feedings though out the night, the morning is welcoming and promising of a fresh start on a new day. This is the story of my breaking point before divorce. My Breaking Point Before Divorce This Saturday begins as any normal weekend; my husband left for work at 5am, 45 minutes away in the city. He slept a peaceful 9 hours despite our daughters’ screaming out bursts throughout the night; not like he has ever gotten up to help, anyway.  I tiptoe out of my bedroom where o