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Honey, I Want A Divorce: When A Woman Decides to Leave

Honey, I Want A Divorce: When A Woman Decides to Leave By  Jackie Pilossoph ,  Founder, Divorced Girl Smiling, the place to find trusted, vetted divorce professionals, a podcast, website and mobile app. Below is an email from a reader who explained that she is  going through a divorce , and that  the divorce  was HER decision. She asked me if I could give her some advice for when a woman decides to leave. In other words, how does one deal with the immense guilt of leaving your husband, when he didn’t want the divorce? (or didn’t know it was coming.)   “It would be so much easier if I could stamp him as a cheater,  alcoholic ,  slacker, loser, abuser. But I can’t! He has been a good father to  our children , a loyal husband as far as I know, and a good provider for our family.  I am in therapy for all the feelings including guilt. The fact is, this has hurt him and ripped his heart out (those were his words).” I have a few thoughts for when a woman decides to leave: First, the fact that
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When Your Spouse Doesn’t Want A Divorce

When Your Spouse Doesn’t Want A Divorce By  Karen Covy ,  Divorce and Decision Coach, Former Divorce Attorney and Mediator, Divorced Girl Smiling Trusted Professional My heart went out to this woman, whose spouse doesn’t want a divorce:  “I want a divorce  but my husband doesn’t.  I have been unhappy for years. I’ve tried to talk to him. No response. I tried to get him to go to  marriage counseling.  He said okay, but never went. I told him I was going to a divorce lawyer. He was upset at first, but now acts like nothing has changed. I am beside myself!  I know that  getting a divorce  is the right thing to do. But my husband is making this so hard! He got the divorce papers but won’t open them. He refuses to show up in court. My lawyer says I can get divorced without him, but I feel so guilty! I know he is going to blame me for everything. What do I do?” It’s bad enough to have to say, “I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t.” But, when your spouse refuses to acknowledge or participa

Southside's Top Rated Child Support Lawyers

Chicago Illinois Divorce and Family Law, Mehta Family Law Group of Chicago. The Mehta Law Group is one of Chicago’s premier law firms. Our team of lawyers and staff are here to serve you and to help you build a better future for yourself and your family. We represent individuals, families, and children in every aspect of the legal process from beginning to end. Our attorneys bring with them over 30 years of combined experience, we are professional, and treat every individual with the respect they deserve. We are hardworking and don’t back down, our goals is always to advocate for our clients, to ensure a positive end result... Call Chicago IL Divorce Lawyers Now...... Call Now 312-374-4559  

Chicago's Top Rated Divorce Lawyers

Chicago Illinois Divorce and Family Law, Mehta Family Law Group of Chicago. The Mehta Law Group is one of Chicago’s premier law firms. Our team of lawyers and staff are here to serve you and to help you build a better future for yourself and your family. We represent individuals, families, and children in every aspect of the legal process from beginning to end. Our attorneys bring with them over 30 years of combined experience, we are professional, and treat every individual with the respect they deserve. We are hardworking and don’t back down, our goals is always to advocate for our clients, to ensure a positive end result... Call Chicago IL Divorce Lawyers Now...... Call Now 312-374-4559  

4 Tips to Having Difficult Conversations With Your Ex

4 Tips to Having Difficult Conversations With Your Ex By  Mardi Winder-Adams ,  Certified Divorce Transition Coach, Board Certified Executive Leadership Coach, Divorced Girl Smiling Trusted Professional Having difficult conversations with your ex  before, during, and even after a divorce  can feel overwhelming, especially if problems communicating were a part of your life together. While it may seem like conflict is inevitable, using a few practical communication techniques can help create opportunities for collaboration, even when emotions like anger, hurt, or frustration are still a reality in the relationship. You can transform these challenging discussions into productive conversations by focusing on strategies like active listening, reframing, emotional regulation, and solution-focused conversations. Here are 4 tips to having difficult conversations with your ex:   1.  The Power of Active Listening Getting caught up in what you want to say during a heated conversation is easy, but

Does Couples Counseling Work? Sometimes

Does Couples Counseling Work? Sometimes. By  Ginny Wright, Ph.D. ,  Clinical Psychologist and Certified Discernment Counselor, Divorced Girl Smiling Trusted Professional Does couples counseling work? Consider a common scenario: Jack is convinced that his marriage with Diane is over. After years of struggle, arguments and distance,  he announces his already-formulated plan to end the marriage.  Diane is shocked. She knew they had problems but didn’t think he would actually “pull the plug” on their marriage. In turn, Jack is astonished that his proclamation comes as a surprise; they both knew the relationship was in trouble and both had threatened divorce in moments of anger. Both spouses panic. Each confides in friends, co-workers, and family members. Almost certainly, they hear a chorus of:  “You should try couples counseling.” It is a reasonable suggestion but likely to be unhelpful for this couple. Let’s examine why. Does couples counseling work? The Value of it. Couples counseling c

Southside's Top Custody and Child Support Lawyers

Chicago Illinois Divorce and Family Law, Mehta Family Law Group of Chicago. The Mehta Law Group is one of Chicago’s premier law firms. Our team of lawyers and staff are here to serve you and to help you build a better future for yourself and your family. We represent individuals, families, and children in every aspect of the legal process from beginning to end. Our attorneys bring with them over 30 years of combined experience, we are professional, and treat every individual with the respect they deserve. We are hardworking and don’t back down, our goals is always to advocate for our clients, to ensure a positive end result... Call Chicago IL Divorce Lawyers Now...... Call Now 312-374-4559