Comparing Your Divorce To Your Girlfriends’ Divorces? By Jackie Pilossoph , Founder, Divorced Girl Smiling, Former Chicago Tribune Columnist and Features Reporter, Huffington Post Blogger and TV News Reporter Are you comparing your divorce to your girlfriends’ divorces? Don’t and here’s why: Because every divorce case is unique. I want to start off by explaining that there are six people who will determine what happens in your divorce: 1. You. 2. Your Ex. 3. The mediator. 4. His lawyer. 5. Your lawyer. 6. The judge. Let’s start with the judge. If you get a judge who is traditional, he or she might make decisions that will benefit the woman in the divorce. If the judge tends to have a soft spot for single dads, it could benefit the man. Then there’s your mediator. If you have a good one, your divorce has a better chance of really good outcome for both you and your ex, and of course, your kids. And both of the attorneys : If yours or y...
How to Win at Divorce–It’s The Small Wins That Matter By Michèle Heffron , Divorce, Relationships and Life Coach, Divorced Girl Smiling Trusted Professional Want to know how to win at divorce? It’s the small wins. When I think about celebrating small wins, it reminds me of a story from a client who we’ll call Mary. Mary was navigating her divorce with the weight of the world on her shoulders , feeling overwhelmed by the unknown. She wasn’t sure where to start, and every day felt like one more step on a never-ending uphill climb. Like many, she was stuck in the idea that her life wouldn’t be okay until all the pieces fell perfectly into place. But here’s the thing: waiting for that perfect “big win” before allowing yourself to feel proud or happy is a trap. You’re not just surviving until that day arrives. You’re growing. Expanding. Becoming someone stronger, someone wiser. And that deserves recognition every single step of the way. One aft...