20 Lies We Tell Ourselves in Dating after Divorce By Jackie Pilossoph Founder, Divorced Girl Smiling (DGS), Host, the Divorced Girl Smiling podcast, Editor-in-chief, the DGS blog, Former Chicago Tribune Features reporter and columnist (Love Essentially), Huffington Post Blogger and TV News Reporter Let’s be honest. Dating aft e r divorce isn’t easy. It’s sort of like a roller coaster. Great dates make us giddy and hopeful and inspired, but a string of bad dates can cause frustration, along with feelings of hopelessness and that awful question, “Will I ever meet someone and fall in love again?” When it comes to dating and relationships , sometimes we try to self-protect and rationalize our feelings by lying to ourselves. Why? Because lies we tell ourselves make things easier. Lies we tell ourselves talks us into staying with the wrong person, going out with someone we know isn’t right for us, telling ourselves he/she isn’t cheating, and more. Here are 20 lies we tell ourselves in...
Learning How To Swim In A Relationship After Divorce By Debra Alper, LCSW Divorce Strategist and Consultant for the Legal Process, Divorce Recovery Therapist, Divorced Girl Smiling Trusted Professional Finding a new relationship after divorce or a break-up is often a wonderful addition to our lives. But, in starting any new relationship, there are inevitable deep waters that we encounter and there are common mistakes that we make in learning how to swim in the new, unfamiliar waters of a relationship after divorce. Learning how to navigate these new waters is a key part of ensuring that we keep our relationships healthy and strong. Here are: 5 Relationship Mistakes that can Drown our Relationships 1. The Expectation that your Partner Should be your Other Half You are a whole. You may be a work in progress (shouldn’t we all be?), but it is your job to put in the time, insight and the growth to ensure that you are creating a full, meaningful, multi-dimensional happy life. Lo...