Here are 9 things I learned as a result of getting divorced : 1. I learned I was a survivor. Getting divorced is like playing dodgeball. Remember that game when you were a kid? People from the other side would throw balls at you and if you got hit, you were out so you had to dodge the balls. Divorce is like that and here are the balls: the lawyer bills, kids crying and acting out because of the change and because they miss Daddy, those moments when the sadness of the breakup is so overwhelming that you are hyperventilating because you are crying so hard, in-laws who are suddenly acting like strangers and acting distant and rude, when the ex comes to get the kids and won’t even say hi or look at you, getting a call from my attorney that my ex was trying to get sole custody, feeling lonely, isolated and alone, worrying about finances, not having a job, and more. Those are the balls are trying to hit and kill you, and guess what? If you’re still standing af...
Divorce Is a Process. So Is Rediscovery One of the most important things to understand is that rediscovering yourself doesn’t happen overnight. If you’ve spent decades in a marriage, raising children or building a shared life, it’s natural to feel disoriented when that chapter ends. You may have spent years identifying primarily as a spouse or parent. Now, suddenly, you’re being asked to redefine your identity. That takes time. Just as the divorce process itself can take months or even longer, rediscovery is a journey. It involves reflection, experimentation, and sometimes stepping outside your comfort zone. But the process of exploring who you are today and who you want to become is an essential part of moving forward.