Tips to Survive the Holidays for Divorced Parents Kyung (Kathryn) Dickerson Co-authored by Alan Plevy, Co-founding Principal at SmolenPlevy Divorce is difficult for children and their parents at any time of the year, but it can be particularly challenging during the holidays. There are a number of issues that can arise, including: coordinating when and where the children are supposed to be, the gift giving tug-of-war, where the parents try to outdo each other by giving the most expensive present, or try to make life difficult for the other parent by giving particularly annoying gifts, and the termination or modification of established family holiday traditions. The uncertainty and stress of being in a separated family or a divorced family can cause disagreements to quickly escalate into arguments, making this an overwhelming and stressful period for both parents and children. However, there are some things that you can do as a parent to make things easier durin...