Comparing Your Divorce To Your Girlfriends’ Divorces? By Jackie Pilossoph , Founder, Divorced Girl Smiling, Former Chicago Tribune Columnist and Features Reporter, Huffington Post Blogger and TV News Reporter Are you comparing your divorce to your girlfriends’ divorces? Don’t and here’s why: Because every divorce case is unique. I want to start off by explaining that there are six people who will determine what happens in your divorce: 1. You. 2. Your Ex. 3. The mediator. 4. His lawyer. 5. Your lawyer. 6. The judge. Let’s start with the judge. If you get a judge who is traditional, he or she might make decisions that will benefit the woman in the divorce. If the judge tends to have a soft spot for single dads, it could benefit the man. Then there’s your mediator. If you have a good one, your divorce has a better chance of really good outcome for both you and your ex, and of course, your kids. And both of the attorneys : If yours or y...